Bit of background. My husband and I have been swinging for about 2 years. Have had lots of fun. However in 4 out of the last 5 encounters the other guy has had performance issues. I shrugged it off the first couple of times, the guys were younger, I thought maybe as a sexy MILF they felt intimidated or just that they didn't know how to pace, but now after this last encounter that was supposed to be a successful MFM I am beginning to hold a lot of doubt, I feel like I'm still bringing chemistry into our encounters, I work out, used to be a model, I know how to hold a conversation, I am no starfish and love to give and receive pleasure. Before this 'glut' of floppiness I'd only ever had 1 instance of non-performance and he was drunk, and EVERY time this has happened I've been kind and supportive and worked hard to not display any disappointed.And for the record, my husband is amazing and always makes me feel like a woman after, and I have no real issues there about balance when there's another woman involved and my man performs and theirs doesn't. Life's too short for jealousy. I am now worried that I'm getting so used being disappointed that maybe I'm somehow projecting that, you know subconsciously.1 time fair enough, 2 bad luck, then one good but short session (phew) but then the 3rd hurt badly and #4 is just WTF? It's hard not to feel like there's something wrong with me, this last session was supposed to 'fix' the damage done by the other 3, and now I am almost afraid to try again.We are taking a break for a while but please sexy people from RHPland, talk me off the ledge so that when we're ready for our cumback I'm armed with something to make me want to. I love sex, I love varying my sexual partners, we've had some amazing experiences, my ego is fine but Jesus Christ my libido is feeling bruised, battered and inadequate. Playing used to heighten my sexuality and make me feel very desirable, but these encounters are having the opposite effect and there's no real common thread with the guys such as too much booze, a particular age, or type to make it easy to change part of the equation.
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