From relationship to friend

About a month or so ago my partner of 3 years broke off our relationship. It was something that was really not as much a surprise as we had been having intimacy issues, well more for me in the fact that I just don't "need" sexual contact on a regular basis. she is 8 years younger than I and in her 20's so not unreasonable to understand her concerns....now that's a separate issue unto itself. But she wanted to be friends when everything is all said and done. I just really couldn't feel I could do that, to take such a step down from the ladder to being just a platonic friend.I guess my question is does that even work for anybody? I'm sure she was all mentally prepared to be that but, I just couldn't do that. I couldn't even look at her in the same way again. And to perhaps see her with another bloke I think I would go ape. I'm dealing with the situation ok as we haven't spoken a word since, unfriended on facebook and all that jazz. but i'd go to biscuit crumbs if I saw her in the street. scared to leave the house on the off chance we would cross paths.just seems to be a selfish copout to want to maintain friendship after a relationship. Have I done the right thing? Is severing all emotional ties the best way to go or is she right in saying im not being an adult about it. fuck that my feelings are hurt. if I get handed a shit sandwich im not going to sit there and eat it in front of her so she can see me not enjoying it.im rambling and starting to lose the point but I guess I just want other viewpoints and venting feels good

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