Trying to Understand Swinging

I don't wish to start a riot, but something I don't understand is swinging. Don't get me wrong I have nothing against it, and what happens between consenting adults is not my business or concern, but I can't quite get my emotional head around this. I'm no angel, and my curiosity has led me to circumstance involving couples, but it's not for me, I felt very uncomfortable being there, because I felt somehow intrusive even though I was invited. Perhaps it's because I'm the single party in the equation? I've never been involved as a swinging couple. I'm happy to have lovers who have other lovers when they're involved with me, but I just can't put us all in the same place at the same time.  The thought of physically sharing my lover and watching it happen, even when I know I am sharing their time, makes me feel ill. The idea of watching another pleasure my lover just kind of hurts. And that's how I know it's not for me. I'm a one on one kind of woman really. So what I wonder is: a) how is it that a couple comes to decision that they will visually share one another; and b) how is this lifestyle lived without it being painful? Again, I do not wish to offend, I'm just trying to understand how swinging sustains a relationship when I my first instinct sees it something that may be fraught with danger.- Posted from rhpmobile

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