We've been playing for a couple of years now - not terribly often - but enough to learn a thing or two, about ourselves individually, together, about others and about how things are likely to play out.One thing we've learned is that even if there's fantastic chemistry on the night, that doesn't mean anything, beyond there's great chemistry on that occasion, and that having expectations of anything beyond that might well lead to disappointment. And this is NSA territory anyway, it's just that often people say things which they don't follow through with, but you don't know that at the time and being open-minded and optimistic I tend to give them the benefit of the doubt rather than write everyone off as just 'talking the talk' at a time where such talk of re-connecting seems appropriate.Me, if there's great chemistry I'll allow myself to enjoy the concept of meeting again, I'll stay in contact with past playmates and generally keep the connection open (I, MrsParadise, do much of our communication so I won't say 'we' in this instance).I can't help but feel though like this world is full of people who are seeking the constant 'newness' and so pass over opportunities to reconnect in order to find fresh experiences. Which is fine because this is NSA territory and they're free to make their own choices. We're not like that though and we've both found re really enjoy re-connecting, once the initial 'first-time' is over where you're only just getting to understand a little about who you're with. In our ideal world we'd have a little pool of regular playmates and so wouldn't need to keep looking (we're about half way there at the moment).I was really just a young adult when I was last in the dating scene, and I enjoyed NSA situations back then too but I'm astounded at how unaffected I am by what in my youth would probably hurt my feelings. An object of desire, simply gets dropped from my naughty-mind if there's any hint that they're not nearly as interested as I am, and that feels like a sub-conscious mechanism for letting that water just roll off this little duck's back. I get disappointed that the fantasy is over but that's about it, there's no hard-feelings or resentment though. Anyway I'm interested in what others have learned about their own processing of the chemistry and connections or lack of that they've experienced in this world... Do others feel like most people here aren't looking for more than that one night stand but project a different message?
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