Feeling truly desired

There's a difference between truly feeling desired and feeling that the other person is just gagging for sex and you happen to be convenient. There's a difference between truly feeling desired and just having sex. I also think there's a difference between truly feeling desired and feeling comfortably loved (emotion of love, not sex) by a partner. I was comfortably loved by my husband and I loved him, but he didn't desire me. In the end the love wasn't enough to overcome the emptiness of not being lusted after. I've had the experience of someone desperately wanting sex and pursuing me because I'm a warm body. That feeling that I'm completely interchangeable leaves a sour taste. I've been intensely desired for my heart, body and mind, and it changed everything about me. It lifted my inhibitions, dramatically amplified my sex drive, and filled me with joy. I was radiant and, so others told me, noticeably more attractive because of my glow and constant smile. I felt the same way about my partner so it was definitely a mutual thing. It was expressed in the casual and intense looks we shared, the heat of our touch during sex or even when we were just making breakfast in the kitchen, the intimacy of the minutiae of life shared, the hilarious/silly/intelligent/profound/emotional/conversations we had and the way he paid attention to everything I said as though I was awesome :) Feeling truly desired is a beautiful thing. Everyone might have a different definition of what being desired means or how it occurs. For me it occurred packaged with love but it may occur packaged in NSA sex or anything in between. Regardless of definition or experience, do you agree that feeling truly desired for YOU (not just as a warm body) is intoxicating and brings out the best in you? I'm very curious about everyone's experience of desiring and being desired :) (A comment at the end of the recent cheating thread has prompted my post - something about doing more to connect with your partner and romance them. It made me think about my personal view that feeling truly loved and desired - however that's demonstrated to me - is the ultimate way of romancing me.) - Posted from rhpmobile

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