Compersion...

The urban dictionary says Compersion is;"A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship..... (it) can be thought of as the opposite of "jealousy;" it is a positive emotional reaction to a loved one's other relationship."We both really like the idea of this. In fact, it is kind of what made us look into this lifestyle: the idea of getting a real and genuine thrill out of sharing each other's pleasures with different lovers. However...the reality has been a little different. We are by no means jealous, but I guess for myself (him), it feels a little like a sense of loss in sharing my wife. While I understand that seeing, hearing or hearing about your partner with someone else can be slightly confronting at times, it has surprised....and somewhat confused me as to exactly what about it I find confronting. It isn't something that upsets us particularly, we just end up avoiding it by playing separately.I'm curious to hear from RHPers where you've found your partners fun with others to be confronting to some degree, and if there was something that made that change and you were able to take joy in your partners experiences. I'd love to get to a point where I can get the same level of excitement from the thought of my wife with someone else as I do by seeing her experience someone else.him

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